When Marital Trust Turns Deeply Troubling

What does a guy do when he gets home and finds his wife in bed with another man? It happened to me in a previous and very short marriage many decades ago. On that day I wanted to kill her.

But I didn’t.

I just went to the nearest divorce lawyer I knew. In a short time everything was settled. She went back to Pennsylvania and I never heard from her again.

What if I had succumbed to my first rage and killed her? That’s exactly what more than a few men do.

It’s big mistake.

I met her in 1963 when I was 18 and stationed on a Fletcher Class U.S. Navy Destroyer anchored at the Norfolk Virginia Navy Yard. She was beautiful and funny. She became the light of my life….Until that day when I saw what I never thought I would see.

I got over it and went on to meet my present wife of 40 years. We are now old and we take care of each other. We don’t plan on dying any time soon but we are thinking about buying a cemetery lot where we will be together in our final resting place. A good while from now, we believe.

All this would be so different and so awful if I had given in to my murderous rage so many years earlier. I came to a fork in the road, and took the one that allowed me to have a wonderful life and forget about that terrible incident so long ago.

The one thing I will never forget was losing contact with her father, a most wonderful and brilliant man who taught me so much. He taught me how to recover from hurt. He liked me more I probably deserved.

I was lucky, however. My second wife’s father was also a great human being that I adored. Thanks be to the Lord that I did not give in to my emotions that early and terrible day so long ago.

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