“The most patient and thorough research about the hook-up culture shows that over the long run, women benefit greatly from living in a world where they can have sexual adventures without commitment or all that much shame, and where they can enter into temporary relationships that don’t derail their careers.” [emphasis added]
— Hanna Rosin in her new book, The End of Men, The Rise of Women
Au contraire mon chéri!
Junk Male, by Kyle Smith:
The more loudly women profess such thoughts, the harder it is to believe them. Rosin’s interviewees are smart and dynamic, but the men who share their beds are juvenile, passing along porn on their phones, getting drunk, inviting their “dates” to go to strip clubs. They do all this because they can — because women will sleep with them anyway.
Women who have given up the power to withhold sex no longer have a way to keep men in line. It turns out that the supposedly anti-feminist, “repressive” Victorian standard, in which all of society pushed toward delaying sex and keeping reproduction within marriage, was a hugely successful way to force men to be responsible.
To a Gloria Steinem feminist like Rosin, women are one side, men are the other, and you should always root for your team, especially when it comes to economic figures. She finds a town in Alabama where women’s median income is 140% of men’s. “After all these years,” Rosin writes, “we have located our feminist paradise in a small college town in the deep South.”
Here’s what happens where women win all the bread and men merely consume it. In another Alabama town, Rosin meets the “smokin’ hot” Shannon and Troy, the father of their child. In the last month he’s worked four days. She works full-time at Walmart, does most of the child care and earns extra cash as “an exotic dancer.” He stays home and smokes and drinks beer. Once he choked her till she passed out. Her income may be several times that of her mate’s, but this is neither feminist nor paradise.
Rosin finds highly educated women with high-income husbands who choose to be stay-at-home moms. They actually choose that? They can do anything and they choose a life that is so…retro? Rosin is mystified.
UPDATE: This heart warming story about the loving devotion that some men are capable of giving to a woman adds deeper thought on “the end of men.”