Why are there so many suicides among the wives of cops?

Maybe there aren’t as many as you’d think from the news stories.  Maybe murders are being covered up as suicides?  I don’t know for sure about that, but there was a disturbing story from St. John’s County, Florida (St. Augustine) on PBS’ Frontline Wednesday night.  If you missed it you can watch the whole thing at the link.

I’m well aware that it’s wrong to pass judgment on a case such as this based solely on a television show.  However, it sure looked to me like they made a decision that it was suicide without very much investigation.  They just took the word of the boyfriend, a St. John’s County Sheriff’s Deputy.  The investigating agency was his own department which alone should raise a red flag.  Florida has a state law enforcement department (FDLE) that should have been called in immediately.  The woman’s family and friends insist she was not a likely candidate for suicide.

There have been suicides in my family and I’ve known people who have experienced suicides in their family.  In every case I’ve known about it comes unexpectedly but people also later say there were plenty of signs and possible reasons.  The surprise wears off when people start to remember things they didn’t take seriously at the time they occurred.  It’s easy to do that.

The Death in St. Augustine Frontline story came out of a New York Times investigative reporter’s efforts [amazing, that mostly worthless rag can still do good reporting when it wants to] and a blogger calling herself “Cloudwriter” on a blog called Behind the Blue Wall.  She documents many police officer girl friend or wife suicides.  If they were all actual suicides you’d almost think the suicide rate in America could be cut substantially if women would stop marrying cops.  It’s tempting to think a lot of these were not suicides.

This is not anti-cop. Most cops are good guys and would be just as suspicious of some of these alleged suicides.  There are agencies that don’t properly investigate their own and they deserve more scrutiny.  Murder is a terrible crime. Murder by an officer of the law, someone we have given special powers and privileges and we trust to serve and protect us, is too terrible to fathom.